Plants for Patients (P4P) is an idea; it’s a framework for doing good work in our communities.  It’s the way we say, “This is how we treat our neighbors — with love and empathy, not shame or hate.”

P4P is a program blending art, community involvement and social activism while promoting humanitarianism.

The program strives to begin breaking down the social stigmas perpetrated against women who undergo abortion care by leveraging the kindness of strangers to create a community of support.  It also seeks to create a new dialogue about the abortion conversation in American society – a dialogue rooted in compassion.

The program identifies as neither pro-choice nor anti-abortion, but exists in the space between, a space we call pro-compassion. This framework allows us to warmly welcome people of differing views, beliefs and opinions to support women in need.

Women who have had abortions are offered a handmade ceramic planter with a small plant and an accompanying hand-written note of support to promote both emotional and physical healing and to extend a gesture of respect and love.

Plants for Patients is a complex collaboration between the artist(s), community advocates, supporters,  clinics, and patients with the hope of spreading a message of healing and support.

Since the launch in March 2012, the program has given out over 500 planters and notes of support to patients.  It has been published in the Fargo Forum, Studio Potter magazine, the High Plains Reader, RH Reality Check and the NCECA Journal Vol.34.  P4P is a registered non-profit charitable organization, a primary partner with The Arts Partnership and is in the process of applying for 501(c)(3) federal tax-exempt status.

This website is meant to not only document the progress of the program, but also serve as a forum of support between those of us who give and the women who receive — a technological smile or hug  saying, “we understand, we support you, and we respect you.”

Go ahead, look around, read the stories and leave your own in return as a part of the process for moving the program forward.

Many thanks,

All of us at Plants for Patients

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Q:  What should I write? 

If you’re a patient:  [CLICK HERE] to go to the online SurveyMonkey questionnaire…

…Or use the comment box below to share your story!  How did you come to your decision?  What’s your family like? Did you find Plants for Patients helpful or encouraging?  Do you have suggestions for how to provide support for women in the future?   What was your abortion experience like? Was it what you expected or completely different?  Do you have any words of encouragement for other women facing decisions relating to pregnancy or abortion?

If you’re a supporter: share your story!  Have you had an experience with a friend, partner or family member who experienced abortion?  Do you have an abortion experience of your own to share?  What words of encouragement would you like to share with women who are/have experienced abortion?  What are your thoughts on Plants for Patients?  What are your suggestions?

Messages to Patients from Supporters

“Dear friend,

Although our paths may never cross, I wish you well.  On today, perhaps a terribly difficult day, I wish you strength.  May this plant remind you that someone out there thought of you.

-Whitney”

“Sometimes what we know is best is still difficult to do so.  May you be blessed wtih wisdom to continue making choices based on love.”

“Whatever today brings, know that warm and caring thoughts are with you.”

“Imagine the day when this day is just a story you tell.  To a future friend who sees the strong survivor in you.  A future friend who is facing the same kind of day.  And her relief to hear you say, ‘I know, me too.’  Stay strong.  Make use of your pain.  Be kind and gentle with yourself.”

“Today you made a very difficult decision and I do understand.  I have been there and I want you to know one thing.  Today does NOT define who you are or what you are capable of contributing to this life.  You have a legitimate right, and responsibility I might add, to hold your head high.  For now, take a rest.  You will be okay.”

“Think beautiful thoughts and live them in your heart.”

“We have all gone through something, it is only one moment in your life. Do not worry. Your heart will lead you to your truth. <3 George”

“Dear friend,  During this time please know that you are loved and supported.  you are beautiful and strong beyond measure.  I hope this plant brings peace and joy to you.  Brandelyn”

“Dear Friend,

I hope you are reminded of your own amazing inner strength whenever you look at your plant.  From someone who has been there –  don’t let anyone tell you how to feel.  You’re the only one who knows what it’s like to walk in your shoes.  Feel however you want to feel — It’s all okay.  I hope you live well and love yourself — you deserve it.  No matter what happens, everything will be okay in the end.  :)

-Love Caitlin”

“Take care of yourself.  Take the time you need to heal and celebrate being a woman with choice and possibilities!”

“You are a strong woman in control of your own destiny. We know this decision was not easy, but we also know you have made the best decision for yourself and your family today. Good luck in everything you do and remember to be a guiding light to other women who may need a choice!”   -Sarah

“You are a strong and wonderful person.  Keep your head up high! I hope you cherish your plant and remember all the good in life and the world.”

“Dear patient,
When somebody says, “I know what you’re going through”, I tend to roll my eyes. But this time, know that it’s true when I say I know what you’re going through. It has been three years since I also had this operation. It is never any easy choice, but some times it is a necessary choice. Know that it will get easier in time and no one hates you for your decision. Women have the right to our own choices and you’ve made the right one for your circumstance. Hold your head high! You’re a fantastic person.

With love and support,
Anna”

“Some of the most amazing women I know are the ones who take extraordinary risks.  They do what they need to in order to survive and heal.  You are one of those women.  Stay strong.”

“You are a good person — you make wise decisions coming from love. Take care.”
“You are resiliant, strong and beautiful as a spring garden. Take care of yourself.”

“You are an amazing person.  I have been in your shoes and this was by far one of the hardest decisions I have ever had to make.  But I can tell you each day gets better.  Surround yourself with family and friends who love you.  You will get through this!  - Lindsay”

“Inhale Love, Exhale Peace.  As this plant grows, and the days pass, stand strong in courage and love. Know in your heart that everything happens for a reason and to everything there is a season.No judgement, No rhetoric,Only love.”  -Kristy

“We believe in empowering women.  We trust that you and only you know what is best for you.  Your body — your choice!  For you, from the Campus Feminist Organization advocates for women’s choices on and off campus.”  -CFO at Minnesota State  University, Moorhead.
“You are loved.  You are beautiful.  Today might have been a tough day for you, or it might have been a blessing.  Just take it easy for a while.  Everything will be fine! – Laura”

“Breathe serenity into your heart and know that you are strong, wise and compassionate.”

“Never underestimate the power of  dreams and the influence of the human spirit.  We are all the same in this notion:  The potential for greatness lives within each of us.”  – Wilma Rudolph

“We believe that women are capable of, and are entitled to make well informed decisions regarding their lives and their bodies.  We support you!” – MSUM Women’s Center

“You are so amazingly brave.  So many people and so many shows/newscasters make being ourselves and acting on our own behalf difficult.  I hope you find strength in your choices and know that your courage inspires me.  You are strong; you are beautiful; you are an intelligent woman.  Thank you for being you.  With love and support, Jennifer”

“Dear friend, 

I have been where you are right now at this very moment and I truly know what you’re going through.  Remember your inner strength and know that you are loved… Today and everyday. – Nat”

“Every judgment blocks the light.”

“Finish each day and be done with it.  You have done what you could.  Some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can.  Tomorrow is a new day.”

“If you’re going through hell, keep going.” – Winston Churchill

“You are STRONG!
You are BEAUTIFUL!
You are INTELLIGENT!
You inspire me to stand up for and protect OUR RIGHTS for reproductive justice.

With love and support, Jennifer”

“In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life:  it goes on.”  – Robert Frost

“Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.”  -Eleanor Roosevelt

“The strength of a woman in not measured by the impact that all of her hardships in life have on her; but the strength of a woman is measured by the extent of her refusal to allow those hardships to dictate her and who she becomes.”  — C. Joybell C.

“No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow.” – Alice Walker

“I hope this plant brightens today and in the future reminds you of your inner strength as you watch it grow <3″

“Adversity is like a strong wind.  It tears away from us all but the things that cannot be torn, so that we see ourselves as we really are.”  – Arthur Golden

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”  – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“I would like to tell them that there are so many people both inside and outside the clinic that support you, who think you are brave and deserve respect. – T”

“When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the ones which open for us.  – Alexander Graham Bell”

Hey.

You are truly strong and brave.  Thank you for sharing your thoughts and stories with us.  This program is for you, and we hope it helps in some small way as you move on and heal.

Take care,

All of us at Plants for Patients

“I recently had an abortion, it was the hardest decision I’ve had to make. The plant I picked is a small reminder of the horrible day, but it tells me that I will get better and it’s what was best for me.”

“What a great idea!  I am lucky enough to have a strong support system of people in my life, but others are not so lucky.  The greatest component to this program, I believe, is the note that accompanies the plant.  How wonderful it would be to know that somewhere out there somebody – for sure- supports your decision and cares about you.  Thank you for doing this.”
“First of all, I will say this… This was by far the hardest decision that I’ve personally had to make. And to know that the choice ultimately fell on MY shoulders only… Only made this experience even more terrifying. However, as soon as I got to the clinic and was greeted by Meg… I had an overwhelming feeling of peace and clarity. I took one look at her and I KNEW I was okay. Now, this doesn’t mean it made it any easier, but it made me feel at ease. At peace. And okay. I was one who never pictured myself in this type of situation. Here I am, almost 30 with an already beautiful child that is the love of my life. How could I be doing this to another child that I could have the opportunity to love? But, given the circumstances… This was the only way to protect my child and my partners children, it would have brought s much pain, so much hurt, so much anger and frustration. Not because of me or my partner… But because of what other people would say. How they would act, and what they would do. It’s not that I didn’t love this little being inside me. Because I did. And still do. It’s just that, as a mother to this beautiful little girl I’ve already had the pleasure of knowing and loving the last 5 years… I had to protect her. Some will understand that. Some won’t. I don’t expect everybody to understand or agree. But in my heart and soul… This was the only way I knew how to protect her.

As far as the plants for patients program goes… It’s a true testament on how we as humans SHOULD treat each other. And shows the compassion and empathy we SHOULD feel for each other. Who is anybody to judge?! The thing about life and the human race… Is that we are all faced with hard decisions that not everybody understands. I just wish that people had half of the compassion in their bodies that the staff at the RRWC have in their pinky. I would surely make the world a happier, brighter place.

I feel good looking at my plant. Because it validates that I’m okay. And that I’m not alone. That SOMEBODY out there care enough for me to take the time to do this. Not just for me, but for everybody that has faced a tough decision.

Ladies, men, kids… Whoever is reading this…. KNOW that you are not alone. KNOW that somebody out there cares about you. And holds you high in their thoughts and prayers… Everybody is worthy of love. And respect. Find it within yourself and others will follow suit.“

Three cheers for Plants for Patients : “Thank you for this idea, this space, this marvelous collaboration. I had an abortion a little over two years ago, and while it was a difficult decision, I knew it was right for my body. I have a lot of old scar tissue in my abdomen and chronic pain as a result, and I stand out from many women in that I have never desired a child. I know that doesn’t make sense to a lot of people, but it’s important, in my world view, that only women who deeply desire a child should birth and/or parent one. What’s sad is that, when I had my abortion, I was not treated very kindly. I was given inadequate pain relief for the procedure and left post-op, alone and bleeding, with  no memory of the instructions that the “counselor” had hastily spoken before bolting out the door. So thank you, because I know that women can be treated with more dignity, more respect, more love and kindness than I was treated. Now in my mind I imagine being handed one of those lovely little succulent plants pictured as part of your project. I feel my worth and I feel honored by your work, even from far away. Thank you.”

 How did the Plants for Patients program affect your experience?

I felt extremely “empty” during the days following my termination.  As much as I didn’t want a reminder of the hardest decision of my life, the plant really helped me cope with my guilt — a reminder that life does go on.

 Have you had a previous abortion?  Did Plants for Patients change you experience for the better, worse or not at all from your previous abortion experience?

No previous abortion, but the plant helped give me a sense of peace.  With the flood of emotions that came in the following days, it gave me something to hold on to.

Do you politically or socially identify as pro-choice or pro-life (or any combination of the two)?  Did your experience change your views or opinions in any way?  If yes, how?

I always thought I was pro-life (except rape or incest or danger to the mother’s life) but until you walk in the shoes of the many women like me that had to make a choice, you shouldn’t judge.

Do you think a program like Plants for Patients has the potential to help women deal with the emotions related to their abortion?  Why or why not?

Yes, I think P4P helps deal with emotions.  Everyone deals and grieves differently.  I did think of the fetus as “a baby.”  I did and still do love it.  I feel bad for what I did, but it was still the right choice.

How is your plant?!  Where did you put it?

It is doing well although I have only had it a couple of days.  It is on the coffee table in the middle of our living room — a central place — I can see it whenever I want.

Why did you choose that particular plant or planter?

There are 2 stems (one with a little stem growing off of it).  The one stem, I think of as my husband, the other I think of as me, with the little stem growing off of it as our baby.  It also has 3 stones.

Do you have any suggestions for improving the Plants for Patients program and/or do you have any ideas for similar programs?

I like the program just as it is.  I like that it is just for women with abortions.  It is something very special just for us.

Did you go to the website? Yes

Did you leave a message, story, experience, photo, etc?  Why or why not?

No, not yet – I will though.  Not quite ready yet.

Was the website easy to navigate? Yes

Do you think the website is successful in creating a forum of support between abortion patients and supporters in the community?  Why or why not?

Yes absolutely.  It helped me realize I’m not so alone.  I read all the other patient stories and really understood that I’m not alone.

How are you doing?  How are you feeling about your choice?

I’m doing fine.  I do believe in my heart I made the right choice.  The staff at RRWC was wonderful.

Have you talked to anyone about your abortion experience? Why or why not?

No, I don’t want anyone to know.  I feel ashamed.

Are you aware of the programs that provide post-abortion counseling like Exhale After-Abortion Talkline, or Backline Talk Line?  Have you used any of them?  Why or why not?

Yes, I’m aware, but I’m not quire ready yet.  It’s only been a few days.  I’m still sorting my feelings out.

What would you tell women in the future facing this decision, based on your experience?

Follow your heart — it is your choice and only yours.  The staff at RRWC is very supportive, and don’t be afraid to ask questions.

Tell us your story: 

We are  Lutheran “Good ol’ country people.”  I am in my late 30′s and he is late 40′s.  He has kids from a previous marriage, and didn’t want to start over.  I work a lot – weird hours – on call.  We both love kids but do not want any at this time in our lives.  What helped me make the decision was when my doctor told me this would be a high risk pregnancy.  I was not willing to endanger my life.  I know that sounds selfish but…

P.S.  I would like to let you know that I really appreciated the hand written note.  It made the experience a lot more personal.

Also after filling out your questionnaire sheet I realized I felt better just writing down how I feel.  I feel it has helped me open up to someone about this.  I haven’t told anyone else about this, but I feel like I have talked to someone about it.  When a woman has to make a choice like this it is extremely mentally exhausting.  Even though I don’t know any of you, and you don’t know me, I would like to thank you for caring about me and supporting me during this mentally and physically draining time.

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How did the Plants for Patients program affect your experience? 

The program is a great idea.  The plants, I don’t know how they do it, but they make the healing process easier.

 Have you had a previous abortion?  Did Plants for Patients change you experience for the better, worse or not at all from your previous abortion experience?

Yes.  It changed it for the better.  Some how affected my soul in a weird way, hard to explain.

Do you politically or socially identify as pro-choice or pro-life (or any combination of the two)?  Did your experience change your views or opinions in any way?  If yes, how?

I was prolife before I had my first abortion but that changed my opinions.

Do you think a program like Plants for Patients has the potential to help women deal with the emotions related to their abortion?  Why or why not?

Yea, it helped me a little more.  Even tiny things help us heal.

How is your plant?!  Where did you put it?

My plan is good.  It sits in the window watching all the action outside.

Why did you choose that particular plant or planter?

It just stood out and looked cool.

Do you have any suggestions for improving the Plants for Patients program and/or do you have any ideas for similar programs?

The program is perfect.

Did you go to the website? Did you leave a message, story, experience, photo, etc?  Why or why not?

No, haven’t had time yet.

How are you doing?  How are you feeling about your choice?

I’m okay and I’m dealing fine.

Have you talked to anyone about your abortion experience? Why or why not?

Yes, it helps me heal.

Are you aware of the programs that provide post-abortion counseling like Exhale After-Abortion Talkline, or Backline Talk Line?  Have you used any of them?  Why or why not?

No.  No, I don’t need it.

What would you tell women in the future facing this decision, based on your experience?

Look into your future.  Do you see yourself raising that baby?

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How did the Plants for Patients program affect your experience at the RRWC?  If you had a partner, friend or family member with you, what did they think about the program?

“It was something to really look forward to at the end of a stressful, emotionally and physically draining day.  I wasn’t sure what to expect from the procedure but I knew that a lovely little plant was waiting for me on the other side.”

Have you had a previous abortion?  “No.”

Do you politically or socially identify as pro-choice or pro-life (or any combination of the two)?  Did your experience change your opinions or your stance?  If so, why?

“I’m pro-choice and a queer, vegan feminist.  If anything, this experience has only underscored just how important women’s right and access to abortion really is.  I don’t know what I would have done without the RRWC.”

Do you think a program like Plants for Patients has the potential to help women deal with the emotions related to their abortion?  Why or why not?

“Yes, very much so.  I loved the entire process – from looking over all the little plants that needed homes, to selecting the one that “spoke” to me, to setting up a special place for it in my apartment, to looking at it and reflecing on my experiences.”

How is your plant?!  Where did you put it?  Did you keep it or gift it to someone else?

“My plant is doing well, thank you!  I’m worried about keeping it healthy because I’m not too great with plants, but I’ve been reading up on their care, and I’m excited for it to grow!”

Why did you choose that particular plant/planter?

“It was so beautiful!  That lovely planter was perfectly matched with the succulent and those two delicate blue stones.”

Did you go to the website?  “Yes.”

Did you leave a message, story, experience, photo, etc.?  Why or why not?

“No, I didn’t leave any reflections, but I really loved looking at the photos you posted of the other beautiful plants and planters.  It’s so amazing that you make them all yourself!”

Was the website easy to navigate?  “Yes.”

Do you think the website is successful in creating a forum of support between abortion patients and members in the community?  Why or why not?

“I think it lets abortion patients and pro-choice folks know that there is support in this community – one that, to me, can often feel anti-woman, anti-choice, and anti-feminist.”

How are you doing?  How are you feeling about your choice?  Because abortion changes us, how do you feel it has impacted you?  Has it changed your views or opinions?  Has it changed any of your relationships?

“I’m feeling good.  I’m feeling a great deal of relief.  I’m thrilled I’m no longer pregnant because I’ve never wanted children and I’ve never wanted to give birth.  Of course, I never wanted to be in a situation where I needed to have an abortion, but this was the best decision for me and I’m so thankful that it was an option available to me.”

Have you talked to anyone about your abortion experience (friends, family, counselor)?  Why or why not?

“I’ve talked to my partner, sister and two best friends about it.  They’ve all been supportive.”

Are you aware of programs that provide post-abortion counseling like Exhale After-Abortion Talkline, Pro-Choice Resources or Backline Talkline?  Have you used any of them?  Why or why not?

“I’m aware of them but have not felt like I needed to use them.”

What would you tell women in the future facing this choice, based on your experience?

 “Don’t be afraid to make the decision that’s best for you!  It can be a heavy, emotionally charged and physically taxing process to move through, but it’s nothing you can’t handle.  My abortion has let me get on with my life.  It’s allowed me to get past the hurdle of an unwanted pregnancy and keep moving towards my own goals and dreams.”

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What is the number of your planter?
“32, I have sentimental tattoos and plan on getting one for this experience.  ‘32’ may very well be incorporated or the plant itself!  I enjoyed receiving and taking care of it.  Very near and dear to my heart!”

How did the Plants for Patients Program affect your experience at the RRWC?
“It was great.  It made me feel like I wasn’t leaving ‘empty handed,’ like with the abortion I still had something very special to care for.  It helped a lot.  I liked opening the bag and finding out I could follow up on it and my favorite was the card [message of support]! The encouraging handwritten words were very uplifting!”

If you had a partner, friend or family member with you, what did they think of Plants for Patients?
“My partner thought it was a unique idea and thought it was neat, but I don’t think he was ‘excited’ as I was.  My mom after getting home thought it was wonderful and a good way to help cope.”

Have you had a previous abortion?
“No, one miscarriage, though.”

Did Plants for Patients change your experience for the better, worse or not at all from your previous abortion experience?
“No other abortion, but they both were very difficult emotionally for me.  In a sense, I felt like it was my new great responsibility to care for the plant.  With the miscarriage I just felt ‘empty’ and like no one really understood or cared.”

Do you politically or socially identify as pro-choice or pro-life (or any combination of the two)?  Did your experience change your opinions or your stance?  If so, why?
“Pro-Choice.  I had always ‘frowned upon it’ [abortion] and thought only in dire circumstances.  Now I see there are many situations, circumstances, etc. that play factors in such a difficult decision.  Definitely opened my mind up to pro-choice!”

Do you think that a program like Plants for Patients has the potential to help women deal with the emotions related to their abortions?  Why or why not?
“YES!  I feel like it filled a small void.  A beautiful plant after a difficult thing like that somehow made me feel a little better.  It’s a beautiful reminder.  I don’t want to say bittersweet, but I do think about my reasoning when I see it.  Keeps me focused, I suppose.”

How is your plant?!  Where did you put it?  Did you keep it or gift it to someone else?
“It’s good.  I’m a little worried about it not getting enough sunlight.  I put it on an end table by my window on a decorative teal and brown platter.  I put a few stones I took from the clinic around it. (Love that idea, too!)  A leaf fell off and I was a little sad – thought maybe I was killing it.  Never been good at taking care of plants, but really going to try with this one! I think I might get a little emotional if it doesn’t continue growing.  Makes me think a lot about responsibility, which is a great thing!”

Why did you choose that particular plant/planter?
“The leaves of the plant reminded me of a feminine flower.  I also liked the yellow and pink small stones in with it.  Somehow reminded me of myself, my partner and what may have been.”

Do you have any suggestions for improving the Plants for Patients program and/or do you have any ideas for similar programs designed to care for abortion patients?
“I love this program!  The follow-up focuses on the plant but gives you an outlet to reflect on everything.  I like it as is – great idea

“BIG THANK YOU! To everyone!  You are all great and made me feel ‘welcomed,’ if you will. Exceeded my expectations!

A very emotional decision for me!  This was one of the hardest – maybe even The hardest decision I’ve ever had to make.  I never thought I would have an abortion or seriously even considered it unless an unfortunate case of rape or incest situation.

After much thinking and deliberation, I made my choice.  Even when I was there it was hard and I had thought about leaving, but I knew I had made it that far and there were reasons I decided to even call [to make an appointment], so I did it.  They [patient educators at the clinic] spoke a lot about how some women feel relieved, and I did.  Not that I’m not sad or don’t think about it, but I know deep down it was the better decision for me and my son at this point in our lives.

My partner has since moved to another state!  I am now ‘vowing’ to make better decisions with my life as a whole for me and my son.  That was one of the many ‘reasons’ I chose to have an abortion and I now feel like I have to better my life.  Having the abortion was, in a way, a mistake in itself.  I really thought of it as a ‘baby’ so the rest of my future’s success is for that baby.  I’m trying to stay optimistic in life from here on out.

Thank you for this wonderful program.  I’m going to try hard to take care of your wonderful gift to me.  Also, I loved the handwritten card.  It made me feel like I wasn’t a bad person, but a real person, addressed.  The fact it was handwritten was the best.  Thanks for helping me with your talent.

 God Bless.”

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How did the Plants for Patients program affect your experience at the RRWC?
“I think it’s an unexpected, considerate & thoughtful idea.  I really appreciate Meg and I’m glad I got the plant I wanted J.

If you had a partner, friend or family member with you, what did they think Plants for Patients?
I didn’t, but my friend thought it was a nice gesture.  She dropped me off and picked me up.

Have you had a previous abortion?  Yes.

 Did Plants for Patients change your opinions on your stance?  If so, why?
It really didn’t change anything, but made me feel a lot more appreciated as a person for my decision.

Do you politically or socially identify as pro-choice or pro-life (or any combination of the two)?  Did your experience change your opinions on your stance? If so, why?
I’ve always been pro – choice even before my first abortion.  I think women should always be able to make a choice, especially if they know it’s the right one.

Do you think a program like Plants for Patients has the potential to help women deal with the emotions related to their abortion?  Why or why not?
I think it would for some people.  Me, myself, I just really appreciate Meg for taking the time to go out of her way for people she doesn’t know.  J  Thank you!

How is your plant?! Where did you put it? Did you keep it or gift it to someone else?
I love my choice in plant. J  I put It in my kitchen next to the window.  While I was waiting, I had my eye on it the entire time hoping nobody would take it.

Why did you choose that particular plant/planter?
It was the biggest, furriest and whitest.  It just glistened and all in all stood out to me.  I love it.

Do you have any suggestions for improving the Plants for Patients program and/or do you have any ideas for similar programs designed to care for abortion patients?
I hope this program gets a chance to help others all over the world.

I just wanted to say ‘Thank You” to everybody at the RRWC.  It’s never an easy choice, but it’s usually always necessary.  I know it will get easier in time and that I shouldn’t get down on myself for my decision.  This was not my first abortion and it was harder this time.  I think it’s a wonderful clinic because you are never once judged and the entire time you are made comfortable and all staff is caring and extremely considerate.  I truly appreciate everything that the staff did for me to make me feel better about my decision.  I also wanted to say Thank you to Anna for the letter I received with my plant.

PATIENT PRAISE OF P4P PROGRAM:

“I really appreciate that even though one life may not be able to continue you give the opportunity to bring one life home.  Also I believe it is easier to handle such a large event if you have something you can physically look at and meditate on to help yourself heal.  Things seem like they are not overpowering and overbearing when you can look at something beautiful and remember your experience.  Also thank you for giving me something that thrives on being talked to and taken care of.”

-a patient

A  comment card for patients asks 3 questions:

1. After reading about the program here in the clinic, what do you think?

2. Do you think this program will help women, even in a small way, after their abortion?

3. Will y0u be taking a plant with you today? Why or why not?

Here are a few responses:
“My thought about Plants for Patients is that it’s a wonderful idea.  Having to make a decision like this alone is never easy and there are many who are alone in their decision when they come.  Everybody here at the clinic is very supportive and welcoming.  Being my second time here I felt confidant knowing I was not alone!”

“Everything is really nicely set up.  I believe it should be the patients’ choice if they want someone in Recovery with them.”

“I think its a really cool way to show the women receiving services that we are cared for!  Thank you!”

“It’s a very good program, I was very satisfied.  Yes I do think it will help women.  Some women are alone through this whole process.  No, I don’t want a plant.”

“I think the plant program is a nice idea.  It shows women a new way of healing.  It will make a big difference on how women heal, possibly more even.  Yes, I think it will help my soul heal.”

“I feel it’s very heart warming and neat, actually, how the plant is related to healing and would LOVE ONE!”

“At first I thought that I wouldn’t want one.  After being here and seeing how comfortable people make you feel, I want one.  I know there’s nothing wrong with me for my choice and I’m comfortable with my decision.  Overall I think it’s a great program.  I’ll keep mine to remind me of a hard decision that was right for me.”

“Yes, I think you did a wonderful job.  Thank you for everything you do.  I think the plant idea is great, however I will not be taking one home because of pets at home.  Thanks.”

“No, cause it will die lol!”

“I believe it is a very good program showing that this is not just a good job to you all that work here, but it shows you all are supportive beyond words.  Thank you for all you do and making this as painless as possible.”

“I do think it will help.  I will take one.  This clinic is so pleasant, offering me hope.  The plant will remind me of the nice and caring staff here. Thank you.”

“It’s very easy to see that everyone at this clinic cares about the patients here.  This is my second abortion and I don’t feel judged here or guilty.  I want to thank everyone for being so kind.  The movies and snacks in the waiting areas really help distract you, too.  Thank you.”

“Yes, I will be taking a plant with me :)
I chose to take a plant because I am at a new chapter in my life and this plant will be a symbol of my new growth because as this plant will grow, so will I, hopefully for the better :)
I think this is an excellent program.  It helps women remember they are not alone!  It is definitely a positive aid to help women grow (as the plant does) past bad experiences on to bigger, better, more beautiful memories.”

“Yes I will.  I think it would help keep my mind busy.  I came here with lots of apprehension and your staff made me feel better with my decision.  There was no judgement and it made my whole experience a good one.  Some people who go thru this will need something to nurture later.  Great idea to give the plants.  Maybe it’ll make someone’s grief a lot less.”

“I think it’s a nice way to make the patients feel better.  I will certainly take a plant home.  It is a nice gesture and I appreciate it.  Thanks for everything!”

“I think the plants are a compassionate gesture – very positive.  
This could help women feel a sense of understanding from others. 
No, I chose not to take a plant because my cat eats leaves on all plants.  I’ve tried, I do not want to risk him getting sick.  Thank you for the gesture.”

“Maybe.  I think it is a great way to help the women heal.  Gives them something to fill the void.”

“I think this is a great program in support of women and their healing.
Thank you for taking the time to support us and our decisions.
We really do appreciate the compassion from the staff and Plants for Patients gives us.”

” I will be taking a plant and feel absolutely humbled to know that there are people/strangers who support me and love me even when my closest friends (many of whom are Christians can’t or won’t).  The ability to care for anything, even a small, cute plant provides a woman with a sense of control and empowerment.  It reminds me that I can be a kind an nurturing person.”

“I think it is wonderful.  I have been here once before and it was so heartless it seemed.  Now with this addition it shows they know it hurts.  I will take one with me.  It will help me remember how strong I have been.  It is wonderful and they are beautiful.  You have given it a personal touch.  Thank you… I don’t feel so alone and the plant will make me happy when I see it.  You have started something wonderful.”

“Yes, I will be taking a plant with.  I believe that this idea is a great one!!  I have never felt so much support as I have encountered here!  Great place!  I hope many others that choose abortion receive the same treatment these great people have showed me today.  So this program is just one more way of showing non-judgmental staff!!”

“I love the idea of Plants for Patients program!  Plants are one of my very favorite things – thank might explain why my home looks like a jungle!  Thanks for taking the time to do this project.  It put a smile on my face during this time.”  – a patient

“This is a great idea.  At least I feel like I’m not just a patient and you guys here at RRWC really do care.  THANK YOU!”

“Really nice idea!  Makes me feel “normal” — hopeful.”

“This is a wonderful idea.  I believe this will help many women begin their healing process.  We will be taking one today.  Thank you.”

 ”Yes, I think it’s a good program.  Yes, it provides a necessary service.  I had an abortion 20 years ago and it felt terrible going it alone.” – from the mother of a patient, supporting her daughter.

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Some women chose not to take a plant with them.  We asked them to tell us why they made that decision.  Here are 4 of those responses:

“I don’t have much room for another plant in my house.”

“The reason why is because this was kind of a sad/bad day and I would feel like the plant would be a reminder.”

“I think it’s a great idea — Thank you!!  I just don’t want to be reminded of today.”

“I don’t want to take one because I won’t appreciate it like someone else will.”

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-Thank you- K.

“Thank you for being so kind.  I wish that there had been someone there 31 years ago when I was in the military and had to travel across the state of North Dakota to get an abortion.”

“What a great idea!  There are so many messages in this “transaction.”  Life, death, openness, sharing, caring, forethought.  The hand made pot really pushes it over the edge.  I wonder if you could get a community group to make more of these?  University women always like to do something tangible.  I see it as both real and also an ongoing art project with patients, families, pot throwers, planters, all writing a short piece on what it means to them.  Great great idea!”  -Claire

“I think it’s really cool that you take time out of your day to make women smile and give them something to leave with!  God Bless.”

“Plants for Patients is exactly the kind of creative and compassionate project that makes excellent Independent Abortion Providers unique.  Congratulations on following this wonderful vision and thank you for sharing the responses of your patients.  This is the kind of thing that helps our patients recognize that we really ARE their allies!

It’s hard to tell these days whether we are on a sinking ship or standing at the dawn of an incredible new chapter of transformation for women (which also means transformation for children, men — the planet!).  It is very exciting to see women and men rising up — like the demonstrators in Virginia, and the women legislators who walked out of their session in Georgia.  Plants for Patients is just one example of how clinics can be part of transforming the energy and experience around abortion. ” -Charlotte

“I think it’s a wonderful idea.  I did not participate in your program, but my friend did.  Thank you for giving my friend a wonderful experience.  Keep up the wonderful work.”

“The handmade pot pushes it over the edge, especially when we think about things like dust to dust, the elements of earth/water/fire, of fire strengthening our resolve and our pots, of women who are mind/body/spirit, of plants, earth and women being part of the greater chain of being…   I’m so amazed.”  - Kate

“I love the exhibition and how you are supporting women’s issues.  I come from a single parent family headed by my mother.  I see the importance of women having more of a say in their decisions both physically and emotionally.  Whatever their decision, I feel that women need more support and less ostracism.  Also, the metaphor is wonderful.”

“I am really moved and had to swallow hard a couple of times.  This project really means something to real people.  Well done — a stellar example of socially engaged practice.”
” I like the Plants for Patients program.  I believe in being able to choose.  These women are very brave to do what they are doing in their circumstances.  I like the fact that the clinic goes over future birth control methods so for some this event can be prevented in the future.  Keep up the good work!”

“I am honestly speechless.  This entire project – from conception to completion – is simply beautiful.  To be able to bring such a simplistic beauty to such a complex, polarizing issue is a testament to your talent and compassion.  As a feminist in Fargo, I have struggled to connect to many of the people and institutions I encounter and I honestly can say this is the best idea/organization I have seen.  Thank you for restoring a glimmer of hope for me in my hometown… and please, let me know if I can help in absolutely any way.”

“I come from a single parent family headed by my mother.  I see the importance of women having more of a say in their decisions both physically and emotionally.  Whatever their decision, I feel that women need more support and less ostracism.  Also, the metaphor [of plants as agents of healing] is wonderful.”

“I’m impressed, I must say.  Really rarely do I encounter a weblog that’s both educative and entertaining, and let me tell you, you have hit the nail on the head. Your thought is outstanding; this problem is one thing that not enough people are speaking intelligently about.”

We would like to thank our collaborators and supporters. They are truly the cornerstone of the P4P program by creating communities of support within their cities and states.   Individual voices come together to create a chorus.  They exponentially increase the reach of the program while contributing their individual skill sets.

For questions or comments please email  plantsforpatients@hotmail.com.

All donations go to the patients in the form of a beautiful plant and planter while deferring the costs of materials.

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Here are some useful links for keeping your new plant healthy and thriving!

We are constantly looking for websites and resources, so please share if you have a personal go-to for succulent and house plant care tips!

CactusLands: Cactus and succulent care

The Succulent Garden

Houseplant Care Guide @ Blogspot

ProPlants: Succulent Care

California Cactus Center

Winter Care of Succulents:  Article by Julie Day

How to Care for Succulent Plants in the Winter, eHow

If you can’t find an answer to your question, please contact us!

plantsforpatients@hotmail.com

A big thank you to one of our readers who submitted this advice:

“Lots of people kill plants with kindness; keeping the soil moist (rather than wet) is a good rule of thumb unless it’s something like bamboo. Don’t fertilize for the first 2 – 3 months, as most nurseries/suppliers pot their new plants in a soil/fertilizer mix. After that, I like to fertilize most plants each time I water with a quarter-strength soluble fertilizer. Light can be an issue for some plants. If you see leaves turning brown or getting VERY light green, they’re probably getting too much sun; if they lean toward the light, they probably need to be a bit closer. Very few plants can take direct sunlight, particularly from a west- or south- facing window. If you must use these windows, try putting a sheer curtain on the window to cut down on the intensity of the sun. Humidity is also a factor to be considered; if the tips of the leaves get brown, or if they wilt quickly, it may be too dry. To combat this (without using a humidifier), try setting the pot on a tray or saucer filled with pebbles, into which water has been poured so that the pebbles are just sticking out. As the water evaporates, the air immediately around the plant will be more humid. If you are having pest problems, a good drench will sometimes take care of things and most nurseries can point you at a good all-round product (Safer Soap is a good one). These are all very general suggestions, obviously, but hopefully they’ll get you back on track with your plants. Good luck!”

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P4P is looking to expand the program to different clinics in more cities across the nation. Can you help by bringing P4P to your community?  Do you have a clinic in your city or town whose patients will benefit from Plants for Patients? Or are you simply interested in organizing support in your community? Let’s talk!

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We look forward to hearing from you!